We all make choices throughout our lives…what career to go into, what kind of car to drive, whether to listen to jazz, rock or country music. What is important to know is that “All behavior has consequences.” Who to date is a choice a person makes. Most people think we ‘just fall in love”…. eyes meet, hearts pound, and two people are magically drawn towards one another.
A word of caution here ladies: chemistry is terrific, it’s important, yet…choosing to date a man again and again and again requires thought and “a specific mind-set.” “Reeling from,” “obsessing over” and “spinning out of control” because the man you think you love is not ‘returning’ your love, can seriously disrupt your sense of self-worth. Love need not be painful nor confusing when you learn the “how to” think your way through dating” while you are meeting new men or already exclusively dating the man of your choice.
Attitude is everything. All too often women “jump in,” making assumptions about the man’s intentions, prematurely manufacturing a future with no guiding principles telling them of their man’s deepening love. Allowing yourself to “loose yourself in a relationship,” at any age, will serve neither you nor your beloved in the long-term.
Considering the impact on your mental and emotional health, updating your attitudes about dating and love means preserving your ‘self worth’ and having confidence in the choices you make. Imagine for a moment and dare to think what your dating experiences would be like if you date assured you will not face an ocean of tears later. Imagine never again spending years in a ‘go-nowhere’ relationship leaving you to rebuild your life. Imagine dating with the ease and freedom of knowing you need not wake-up one morning to find you are 42 and childless because you can direct your ability to love so that you get the life you want.
Preserving your self-worth while you are ‘getting to know someone new’ then knowing “when” and “how” to show your love requires knowledge and skill. Women are willing to control their wardrobe, control their hair and control other people but when it comes to controlling their mind, they fail miserably. So the choice is yours. How do you want to live your life? You can keep doing what you’ve always done and get the same result or you can try something new.
Look for my “Courage, Heart, and Wisdom Blog” weekly on Thursdays and Sundays.
Check out my website, www.courageheartwisdom.com for more information about my “Dating With Your Future in Mind©,” “Communication Skills for Healthy Relationships©” seminars, in-office and by-phone coaching (Skype available) sessions.
A word of caution here ladies: chemistry is terrific, it’s important, yet…choosing to date a man again and again and again requires thought and “a specific mind-set.” “Reeling from,” “obsessing over” and “spinning out of control” because the man you think you love is not ‘returning’ your love, can seriously disrupt your sense of self-worth. Love need not be painful nor confusing when you learn the “how to” think your way through dating” while you are meeting new men or already exclusively dating the man of your choice.
Attitude is everything. All too often women “jump in,” making assumptions about the man’s intentions, prematurely manufacturing a future with no guiding principles telling them of their man’s deepening love. Allowing yourself to “loose yourself in a relationship,” at any age, will serve neither you nor your beloved in the long-term.
Considering the impact on your mental and emotional health, updating your attitudes about dating and love means preserving your ‘self worth’ and having confidence in the choices you make. Imagine for a moment and dare to think what your dating experiences would be like if you date assured you will not face an ocean of tears later. Imagine never again spending years in a ‘go-nowhere’ relationship leaving you to rebuild your life. Imagine dating with the ease and freedom of knowing you need not wake-up one morning to find you are 42 and childless because you can direct your ability to love so that you get the life you want.
Preserving your self-worth while you are ‘getting to know someone new’ then knowing “when” and “how” to show your love requires knowledge and skill. Women are willing to control their wardrobe, control their hair and control other people but when it comes to controlling their mind, they fail miserably. So the choice is yours. How do you want to live your life? You can keep doing what you’ve always done and get the same result or you can try something new.
Look for my “Courage, Heart, and Wisdom Blog” weekly on Thursdays and Sundays.
Check out my website, www.courageheartwisdom.com for more information about my “Dating With Your Future in Mind©,” “Communication Skills for Healthy Relationships©” seminars, in-office and by-phone coaching (Skype available) sessions.
